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A Love That Will Last | Renee Olstead
“I want a little something more. Don’t want the middle, or the one before. I don’t desire a complicated past. I want a love that will last..” <3
“Look at you. You’ve been working too hard. I think you should go take a rest. Yeah, I know that you want to stop working for a while. See, you’re eyes are having dark circles around them. I don’t want you to look haggard. I know that is just a minor setback, but I know you’ll be more beautiful after you get a decent pampering. Come, darling, let me give you a hug.”
Then he held my shoulders and carressed me from my cheeks to my chin. He embraced me and let me feel is heart beat from his chest to mine.
I smiled a tired one, but I was relieved and told him, “You really know what to do to make me feel better.”
With our eyes fixed upon each other’s visages, I was the one who stole a quick kiss from him.
He laughed and said, “Of course, honey, I love you and I don’t want to see you stressed like that.”
We held hands and then I let go and decided that I was going to take a shower.
“Thanks. By the way, ditto.” I said.
“I love you too.”
He had that sweet yet naughty smile on his face, he said, “Don’t take a shower. Take a dip in the bath tub instead. You could use a lot of spoiling from me.”
Today, I am marrying my best friend. Everyone is already waiting in the chapel, and even Joseph. As the chauffeur opened the door for me, time starts going by so slowly, just like in those movies wherein all thoughts of the person shown on screen were being narrated. I think to myself, “Am I ready? Is my hair okay, my dress, my sandals?” I take a quick glance all around my body, hoping not to be oblivious to the wedding attendees close to the entrance. I start walking inside. I hear “oohs “and “aahs” as I see the people look at me. I’m feeling nervous and I struggle to keep my smile from turning into a grin. At a distance, Joseph waits for me at the altar, smiling coyly. He is looking very handsome with his face clean and his beard trimmed enough to show his smile. Beautiful.
Finally, my long minute of walking down the aisle ends. I look at my husband-to-be as he did at the same time, as if we communicate telepathically. I guess it is really that way when you’ve been with each other so long. I take a deep breath to calm my excitement, Joseph squeezes my hand reassuringly and I squeezed back, as we both face the minister.
Thinking if this was a love post? Well…?! Just think about it.
Yesterday, after we took CR to her bus to Manila, L and I talked about a lot of things. One, which I can share here was the different expressions of love. They are:
According to LM, we can express all of these. We just have a preference for a couple of them, whether or not we are conscious of it. If I ranked these expressions of love according to what I think is the frequency of what I do, it would be:
Acts of service
Well, I’ll just write the things I remember doing to show care for certain people. I remembered the time when while CS was driving, I let him have a bite of the red velvet cupcake which KC shared with the rest of the gang in the vehicle. There was also this time frame when a certain KD became injured. I helped her every time I could and wanted when she was mobility-restricted. During dorm days in college, when my OC-ness would strike, I would clean the bed of my roommate, DP. There probably were so much service thingies I’ve done that I don’t remember other instances of me helping others.
I spend time with the people whom I think would enjoy having me around. If the feeling isn’t mutual, then I don’t think I would be around certain people. And, if I really cared, I would totally do my best to make time to be with them. Before, when CS and I were ‘dating’, I would squeeze in a chat schedule during the weekdays after school so we could interact and get to know each other. During college, I spent more time with my thesis mates and had gotten more close with KC, CD, KD, EM, and AP. I learned more about their quirks, their positive, as well as negative attributes, and what made them lovable and valuable to me. It makes me happy that I still keep in touch with most of them.
Well, this is mostly done with my pets. LOL. We’ve had a shar pei puppy since February named Muffin. She’s a little stubborn and she bites me sometimes, but when she’s tame and docile, I enjoy petting her and having her sit or lay beside me. Because she’s soooo cute. <3 The piglets we just had a couple of weeks ago aren’t used to being touched so I just enjoy looking at them, and they’re so little. Bessy, our five-year-old German shepherd had just given birth, so she isn’t exactly safe to pet lately. Of the eight puppies she’s given birth to, only two remain surviving. I hope they turn out okay. Tisoy is the father, so I’m kind of saddened that the puppies are a mix of mongrel and German shepherd.
For people, I prefer hugging and/or just plain sitting beside each other. My hands are too sweaty, and I don’t really like them being held. Also, if some friends would notice, I don’t hold the hands of other people when I need to pull them. I hold their wrists instead. I just got used to it. Having an arm around me is a comforting feeling. And I can also put my arm around another friend’s, if my arms were long enough or if I was tall enough to reach his or her shoulders.
Kissing? When I find out. Cheek-kissing is fine, as long as it isn’t so wet. LOL
This one actually depends on my mood and how much I value you. When I feel like baking or cooking, I try to make the food really delicious. I think I give functional gifts more than pretty or cute ones.
Words of affirmation
I don’t really enjoy telling people how much I care for them. The reason why? I’m afraid of rejection. Or, I don’t want tears welling up in my eyes because usually, when I really mean what I say, it happens. And when that happens, I have to prepare buckets. I mostly use affirmation in the letters I write.
So, after reading about the different languages/expressions of love, if you would rank the order of how frequent you express them, what would the list be?
I second the motion