Posts tagged: FRIENDS
So, I decided to clean up my Facebook by deleting friends off it. I deleted most of my classmates from college and high school (I hope none of them got offended).
This should help me not get addicted to Facebook and not get curious about people and what are going on in their lives. Plus, there hasn’t been any thrill lately about not knowing what’s new with my friends.
Matt Le Blanc is so cute!
Joey, what would you do if you were omnipotent for a day?
I'd probably kill myself.
Hey, if little Joey's dead, then I got no reason to live.
You are?! Ross, I'm sorry. I had no idea. I thought it was a theoretical question.
JA, JCL, and GB; waiting for the gunshot start for the 10k NatGeo run.
It’s sad the photo cut off JCL a bit.
Thinking if this was a love post? Well…?! Just think about it.
Yesterday, after we took CR to her bus to Manila, L and I talked about a lot of things. One, which I can share here was the different expressions of love. They are:
According to LM, we can express all of these. We just have a preference for a couple of them, whether or not we are conscious of it. If I ranked these expressions of love according to what I think is the frequency of what I do, it would be:
Acts of service
Well, I’ll just write the things I remember doing to show care for certain people. I remembered the time when while CS was driving, I let him have a bite of the red velvet cupcake which KC shared with the rest of the gang in the vehicle. There was also this time frame when a certain KD became injured. I helped her every time I could and wanted when she was mobility-restricted. During dorm days in college, when my OC-ness would strike, I would clean the bed of my roommate, DP. There probably were so much service thingies I’ve done that I don’t remember other instances of me helping others.
I spend time with the people whom I think would enjoy having me around. If the feeling isn’t mutual, then I don’t think I would be around certain people. And, if I really cared, I would totally do my best to make time to be with them. Before, when CS and I were ‘dating’, I would squeeze in a chat schedule during the weekdays after school so we could interact and get to know each other. During college, I spent more time with my thesis mates and had gotten more close with KC, CD, KD, EM, and AP. I learned more about their quirks, their positive, as well as negative attributes, and what made them lovable and valuable to me. It makes me happy that I still keep in touch with most of them.
Well, this is mostly done with my pets. LOL. We’ve had a shar pei puppy since February named Muffin. She’s a little stubborn and she bites me sometimes, but when she’s tame and docile, I enjoy petting her and having her sit or lay beside me. Because she’s soooo cute. <3 The piglets we just had a couple of weeks ago aren’t used to being touched so I just enjoy looking at them, and they’re so little. Bessy, our five-year-old German shepherd had just given birth, so she isn’t exactly safe to pet lately. Of the eight puppies she’s given birth to, only two remain surviving. I hope they turn out okay. Tisoy is the father, so I’m kind of saddened that the puppies are a mix of mongrel and German shepherd.
For people, I prefer hugging and/or just plain sitting beside each other. My hands are too sweaty, and I don’t really like them being held. Also, if some friends would notice, I don’t hold the hands of other people when I need to pull them. I hold their wrists instead. I just got used to it. Having an arm around me is a comforting feeling. And I can also put my arm around another friend’s, if my arms were long enough or if I was tall enough to reach his or her shoulders.
Kissing? When I find out. Cheek-kissing is fine, as long as it isn’t so wet. LOL
This one actually depends on my mood and how much I value you. When I feel like baking or cooking, I try to make the food really delicious. I think I give functional gifts more than pretty or cute ones.
Words of affirmation
I don’t really enjoy telling people how much I care for them. The reason why? I’m afraid of rejection. Or, I don’t want tears welling up in my eyes because usually, when I really mean what I say, it happens. And when that happens, I have to prepare buckets. I mostly use affirmation in the letters I write.
So, after reading about the different languages/expressions of love, if you would rank the order of how frequent you express them, what would the list be?