Thinking if this was a love post? Well…?! Just think about it.

Yesterday, after we took CR to her bus to Manila, L and I talked about a lot of things. One, which I can share here was the different expressions of love. They are:

• Acts of service;
• Touch;
• Words of affirmation;
• Time together; and,
• Gifts

According to LM, we can express all of these. We just have a preference for a couple of them, whether or not we are conscious of it. If I ranked these expressions of love according to what I think is the frequency of what I do, it would be:

1. Acts of service
2. Time together
3. Touch
4. Gifts, and
5. Words of affirmation

Acts of service

Well, I’ll just write the things I remember doing to show care for certain people. I remembered the time when while CS was driving, I let him have a bite of the red velvet cupcake which KC shared with the rest of the gang in the vehicle. There was also this time frame when a certain KD became injured. I helped her every time I could and wanted when she was mobility-restricted. During dorm days in college, when my OC-ness would strike, I would clean the bed of my roommate, DP. There probably were so much service thingies I’ve done that I don’t remember other instances of me helping others. 

Time together

I spend time with the people whom I think would enjoy having me around. If the feeling isn’t mutual, then I don’t think I would be around certain people. And, if I really cared, I would totally do my best to make time to be with them. Before, when CS and I were ‘dating’, I would squeeze in a chat schedule during the weekdays after school so we could interact and get to know each other. During college, I spent more time with my thesis mates and had gotten more close with KC, CD, KD, EM, and AP. I learned more about their quirks, their positive, as well as negative attributes, and what made them lovable and valuable to me. It makes me happy that I still keep in touch with most of them. 

Touch

Well, this is mostly done with my pets. LOL. We’ve had a shar pei puppy since February named Muffin. She’s a little stubborn and she bites me sometimes, but when she’s tame and docile, I enjoy petting her and having her sit or lay beside me. Because she’s soooo cute. <3 The piglets we just had a couple of weeks ago aren’t used to being touched so I just enjoy looking at them, and they’re so little. Bessy, our five-year-old German shepherd had just given birth, so she isn’t exactly safe to pet lately. Of the eight puppies she’s given birth to, only two remain surviving. I hope they turn out okay. Tisoy is the father, so I’m kind of saddened that the puppies are a mix of mongrel and German shepherd. 

For people, I prefer hugging and/or just plain sitting beside each other. My hands are too sweaty, and I don’t really like them being held. Also, if some friends would notice, I don’t hold the hands of other people when I need to pull them. I hold their wrists instead. I just got used to it. Having an arm around me is a comforting feeling. And I can also put my arm around another friend’s, if my arms were long enough or if I was tall enough to reach his or her shoulders.
Kissing? When I find out. Cheek-kissing is fine, as long as it isn’t so wet. LOL

Gifts

This one actually depends on my mood and how much I value you. When I feel like baking or cooking, I try to make the food really delicious. I think I give functional gifts more than pretty or cute ones.

Words of affirmation

I don’t really enjoy telling people how much I care for them. The reason why? I’m afraid of rejection. Or, I don’t want tears welling up in my eyes because usually, when I really mean what I say, it happens. And when that happens, I have to prepare buckets. I mostly use affirmation in the letters I write.


So, after reading about the different languages/expressions of love, if you would rank the order of how frequent you express them, what would the list be?